Many women wonder what it is with the male fascination with heterosexual anal sex. Men seem to fantasize obsessively about anal sex. Hundreds of porn movies are made every year fetishizing anal sex. Women everywhere debate whether they should or shouldn't have anal sex with their boyfriend or husband. And men discuss amongst themselves how they can convince their female partners to give it a try.
Anal sex avoids intimacy – cue the commitment-phobes
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Anal sex tops the "must try" list for many guys…but it's not exactly up there for most women. We asked a few seasoned sex experts why men are so fascinated by the idea of getting into our back doors. Here's what they revealed. Throughout history, anal has been known as a sexual forbidden fruit of sorts. This off-limits factor makes it especially appealing to men, says award-winning erotica author Darren Michaels. After all, they tend to want what they can't have, right? Now, anal sex is a standard when it comes to porn, so most guys have seen it in action, even when they weren't necessarily looking for it. Because anal has become so mainstream in porn, guys might feel like they're missing out if they're not doing it too, says sexuality counselor Ian Kerner, PhD, author of Good in Bed. Michaels says that part of the anal appeal comes down to one thing: power.
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OK, here we go: This month's column is dedicated to anal play. Still with me? Great, because an increasing number of couples—and at least one Girls character this season we're looking at you, Marnie —are exploring the sexual delights that both men and women can find around back. You might be among them! Or you might be wondering: Are guys really that fixated on butt stuff? According to our survey, yes: 67 percent of guys are open to anal play in some form. And if they are into it, why? I'm here to explain. First, a little anatomy refresher: Just like our sex organs, our anuses have thousands of nerve endings that respond to stimulation.