Good sex matters. Your fantasy life is just your fantasy life, until and unless you choose to make it into more. Here, thanks to recent studies , research , and women sharing their brilliant personal insights , are 25 of the most common sexual fantasies women have—and some advice on how to bring them to life. You can be perfectly happy with your partner and still find something electrically exciting about the idea of cheating on them. It could be the danger of getting caught that draws you in, the freshness of a new sexual connection, or something else entirely. But if you do, maybe some form of ethical non-monogamy is an avenue you should explore. It can be incredibly hot to call the shots during sex, especially in a culture that systematically tries to strip women of our power both in and out of the bedroom. The thrill of sex in a public or semi-public place has long been a popular fantasy: dark alleys, public bathrooms, and movie theaters are common choices. The thrill of getting caught is one commonly cited reason, as is a general interest in exhibitionism.
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Thankfully, trailblazers like Janet Jackson and Madonna and newcomers like CupcakKe and Halsey have all done their part in destigmatizing the female desire for sex. Madonna's been pushing the envelope since she burst onto the scene, a trailblazer for women expressing their sexuality through music. Her earlier hits were suitably sexy, but she's still making new music as well. Check out: "How Many Licks? Britney once pleaded with her lover to "hit me, baby, one more time" with her debut single, but she came into her own with a song all about touching herself in the most intimate of ways. Never one to shy away from the desires that some might consider "vulgar," CupcaKKe is a queen who raps bluntly and explicitly about sex, be it oral or otherwise. In fact, she was even inspired to write it thanks to ogling men in a porno mag. Queen B can be a radiant beauty and benevolent role model, but that doesn't mean she can't enjoy sex.
Helena Lorimer February 28, This article was scientifically fact-checked by Human Sexuality expert Dr. Laurie Mintz. But why is touching so important?
If you want to drive your man wild in the bedroom we've got the tips for you. You've heard of little things called erogenous zones before, but do you know where they are on a man's body? Some of them are obvious - if you're not touching those areas you're definitely doing it wrong - but some of them may surprise you. Kissing boosts levels of dopamine in the brain, a neurotransmitter that boosts desire and the reward system in the brain. If you've ever had someone play with your ears and liked it, then it makes sense your man would like it too.